In this episode, I continue my discussion on the importance of self-image. As I mentioned in my last solo, Episode 295, Self-Image – Building a Better You, I was influenced by my reading of the book called “With Winning in Mind” by Lanny Bassham, a former Olympic champion gold medalist who teaches people about how to become the best performer that they can become.
The good news is that you can change your self-image, and in today’s episode, we go through the four steps of changing self-image.
I highly recommend reading the book. I was just blown away by the book, and it’s helped me get clear about my thinking. I recommend you tune into next week’s solo as well (it drops on August 13), and I will take you through the self-image concept.
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Mike Malatesta 00:05
Hey, everybody, welcome back to a Friday solo episode. I’m so happy to have you here. Thank you for joining me. This is my second in a series that I’m doing that was influenced by my reading the book called “With Winning in Mind by Lanny Bassham. The first one, which was released last week, was called “Self-Image – Building a Better You. Lanny is a former Olympic champion gold medalist, and he teaches people about how to become the best performer that they can be become, which is what I like to do in my coaching business. And I like to do with myself as well. So the book really resonated with me and inspired me to do a series on self-image because I’d been talking about self-talk and what I call self-listen. But I hadn’t really thought or talked about self-image. When I read his book, it was just so important that I wanted to make sure I was sharing it with you. So you can reach Lanny at mentalmanagement.com, and his phone number is 972-899-9640. I’d love to hear what you think about this, because it’s my first time doing, you know, a little series like this. And you know, maybe it works, and maybe it doesn’t. So, listen and watch, and let me know.
So, the last solo episode ended with this out of his book: “The good news is that self-image can change. But I admit, it is not easy.” And so he goes on to say, and this really hit home for me, but maybe it will for you.
The problem for most of us is that we know something has to change for our score or our performance or our goals to improve. We just do not want it to be us. That sound familiar? Sound like something else has to change, we don’t want to change, we’d prefer that our problem would be solved by buying that new piece of equipment. We’d prefer that if we read another book, or took another lesson, we would change. We prefer that someone else be the problem instead of me; anything but me. But no one can change your self-image except you. You have to do it yourself. And the first step is to admit that you are the problem.
So he takes us through the four steps in changing self-image and I want to go through those with you.
Changing a self-image that is keeping you from reaching your goals may be the most important skill you will ever learn. I believe that you can change any attitude or habit you do not want. You should experience a corresponding change in performance when the self-image changes. Here’s how to do it in four steps.
Step number one: you must be willing to change. Our self-image does not respond to the changes others want us to make. You must decide for yourself, and you must choose to do it. Now. That stuff reminded me of motivation. You know, you hear about motivational speakers and being motivated and really the only person who can motivate you is you. So, this premise that you must be willing to change, really, I think is exactly right.
Step number two: you must identify specifically the habits and or attitudes that you need to change. For example, I’m looking for a solution to worrying about shooting below my average in the days just before a competition. [And for reference, if you missed it, he is an Olympic world-champion in shooting so that’s why the reference to shooting is there.]
Third, you must identify a new self-image that is in direct conflict with your old partner. For example, I only think about what I want to have happened concerning upcoming competitions.
And fourth, you exchange your old self-image for the desired one by only imprinting the new attitude or habit and trying to eliminate imprinting the old one. Remember, your self-image is the current state of you. It is not the final state of you. Be aware that your self-image is evolving in the direction of your imprinting. The better you control your imprinting, the better Captain you will be on the submarine that is taking you to your goals.
So that’s it for this episode, something to really think about there. Those four steps right are about five minutes long and you’ve got four steps here – (1) you must be willing to change; (2) to you must identify specifically the habits and attitudes that you need to change; (3) you must identify a new self-image that is in direct conflict with your old one; and (4) you exchange the old self-image for the desired one by only imprinting the new attitude or habit and trying to eliminate imprinting the old one.
This is all out of the book “With Winning in Mind” by Lanny Bassham. I was just blown away by the book, and it’s helped me get clear about my thinking, and I hope it has for you as well. You are welcome to join me on the next episode and I will take you through one more concept, the self-image concept, out of this book.
I hope you got some value out of today and until next time. Keep maximizing your greatness